Took my daughter to see Dr. Sark for her follow-up appointment on her ear infection today. Before he came in I was seated on the examination table, and he surprised me by crossing immediately to me and putting his arms around me. I didn’t realize what he was doing getting so close to me and I rather stupidly blurted out, “What’s this?” He replied, “This … is a hug.” “Okay … so we’re on a hugging basis now …” I said, trailing off. It kind of took me by surprise.
Far be it from me to complain though. A hug from a hot doctor is a hug from a hot doctor, right?
I asked Dr. Sark about travel during pregnancy, explaining that my sister is engaged and angling for a wedding date in November of next year. He replied that he wouldn’t want me traveling after four months.
“Four months!” I said in disbelief. He said something about being old-fashioned and not wanting pregnant women jetting around everywhere.
I’m sorry, but no. Even if I didn’t have the wedding, I have academic conferences to attend in the summer that are important to me. I only need a doctor’s permission to fly with certain airlines during the final month of pregnancy, and quite a few of them have no requirements for a doctor’s permission at any point of the pregnancy.
So, I guess I shouldn’t count on getting permission from him if I need to do any traveling during my final month of pregnancy. Which is fine. I’ll just have to stick to the airlines that don’t require it.
In other news, I asked him at an appointment several months ago if I could have a doula at my delivery if he were my doctor, and he said he’d get back to me on that. Today he finally got back to me, and he said a doula would be fine. So yay for that.
As I explained in another post, my doctor is a resident whose residency will end in June 2014. I would like to be able to deliver with him. I don’t typically get along well with doctors, so the fact that I get along well with him and trust him is kind of a big deal for me. So if I want to deliver with him, I need to get pregnant by around September 2013 at the latest. Supposedly, at age 30, I only have about a 15% chance of conceiving for each cycle. However, when I got pregnant with DD, I conceived within 1-2 cycles of coming off of birth control. So either we got very lucky, or we’re particularly fertile people. I’m hoping it’s the latter, and that my odds of conceiving in a given month are better than 15%. In theory, if we time our baby-dancing every month for well within the fertile window, we have a pretty good chance of being pregnant before September 2013. (Of course, I can’t account for miscarriages or anything like that.)
But, I have another problem. My only sister whom I love dearly just got engaged. And currently she is eyeing November 1st, 2013 for a wedding date. (This is also my anniversary, but I told her imitation is the fondest form of flattery and I would be tickled if she shared an anniversary with me.) I live in Illinois and my sister lives in Washington state, so attending her wedding is going to require an airplane ride. I have no qualms about flying pregnant or attending her wedding in a maternity dress, but if her wedding falls close to my due date, that could be a problem.
I’m not completely certain when I will be ovulating given that my body is still in post-Mirena mode. But here’s some estimates for date of conception vs. due date:
- If I ovulate between December 29th and January 6th, and manage to conceive, my due date will be between September 21st and September 29th, 2013. This would actually be perfect as it would mean showing up at her wedding with the new baby to meet everyone. However, thinking I will get pregnant on the first cycle is kind of optimistic and would take quite a bit of luck.
- If I ovulate between January 29th and February 6th, and manage to conceive, my due date will be between October 22nd and October 30th. This would be pushing it awfully close to my sister’s wedding, though I might still be willing to try if I ovulate at the earlier end of that window.
- If I ovulate between March 1st and March 9th, and manage to conceive then, my due date will be between November 22nd and November 30th. If my doctor were willing to grant me permission to fly at 8 months 1 week pregnant, I might still be willing to try.
So, I will have to ask my doctor for his feelings on pregnant women and flying in the 8th month. If he isn’t willing to sign off on it, I may abstain from trying to conceive in January, February, or March if doing so would put my due date within two weeks of my sister’s wedding. I will ask him at my daughter’s doctor’s appointment on Friday.
Because being at my little sister’s wedding is priority one.