I played the pregnancy card

From Order of the Stick #587, "What to Expect When You're Expecting Assassins," © 2008 Rich Burlew

From Order of the Stick #587, “What to Expect When You’re Expecting Assassins,” © 2008 Rich Burlew

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There is a laundromat 1/2 mile away from our apartment that we have used for the almost-two years we have lived here. Its posted business hours say that the laundromat is open from 6 AM – 9 PM, but the door automatically locks at 7:30 PM and they ask that you have your last load in by then—so continuing to wash and dry after 7:30 PM is okay, but if you do not remain with your laundry, you might not get back in till the next morning. In the nearly-two years I have lived here, I have picked a load of laundry up after 7:30 maybe 2-3 times, and on only one occasion did I leave my laundry there overnight and pick it up at 6 AM the next day. There has almost always been an employee or customer there after 7:30 PM who could let me in to pick up my laundry, so I never saw it as a big deal. Admittedly, the last time I picked up laundry after 7:30 PM was about 2 weeks ago.

I’m also a chronic leaver of laundry. DD has ADHD and VCFS, and waiting around for laundry to get done with her in tow is awful. I’d rather risk someone stealing my laundry (it’s never happened) than spend 2 hours at the laundromat with her constantly whining at me to do something more interesting. I can see the large signs posted which say the laundromat is not responsible for you leaving your laundry unattended, and I accept full responsibility in the event that theft occurs, thank you very much.

So, last night I put a load in to dry at 7:15 PM and drove home to be with DD as usual. I came back at 8:15 PM to pick up my laundry. The only ones there were the employees, a middle-aged Asian couple. The wife came to the door with my laundry in a thin plastic bag, glared at me, and proceeded to scold me for not remaining with my laundry. The conversation looked something like this (her tone was belligerent and angry, I had been in a pretty good mood upon arriving at the laundromat and was shocked and confused):

“You need to stop doing this.”

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A rant about paternalistic pro-choicers

Paternalistic, yes. Pro-choice? Not even close.


Yesterday I posted a thread at BabyandBump wherein I stated my desire to not submit to prenatal STD screening, and asked if anyone felt the same way. I did this thinking that BnB is generally a pretty accepting place that encourages women to support one another in their different choices. You can do a thread at BnB on how you are “the other woman” having a baby with a married man, or how you are aborting your Down Syndrome baby because your amniocentesis came back positive for that. You can go to the protected “Gender Disappointment” forum and cry blue rivers of tears because your perfectly healthy baby is a girl instead of a boy. And you know what? You may get some condemnations, but generally people will be supportive of your feelings and choices.

Well, I learned yesterday that the one thing you are not allowed to be at BnB is a woman who feels confident that she has no STDs and wants to opt out of prenatal screening for them. This will cause a swarm of posters to shrilly denounce you as a heartless, selfish, arrogant, hypocritical bitch who has no compassion or concern for her unborn child. You are especially not allowed to stick around and defend your choice against these accusations, because then you were intentionally provoking the abuse and it’s all your fault. [1]

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